A Message to My St. Mary’s Sisters…

I recently had the pleasure to speak with a Gold Tie graduate of 2002 during my college bound Belle campus visit, and had a very insightful conversation with her. We talked about the campus life, new clubs that have been formed, and even talked about our memories of Mr. Salehi. Eventually, we came around to the topic about advice. I asked her if there were any advice she would give to her high school self that she wished to hear from someone who went through the four-year experience. She was glad I had asked the question and she gladly gave her insight…

“I would tell myself [to] take each day one at a time. Also, not to be afraid to take risks and don’t care too much what others say. Lastly, I would say to always remember to stay true to myself.”

I took these words to heart because they served as good advice for not only myself, but other young adults who are on the journey of discovering their self-identity as well. I then proceeded to ask her if she had any advice for the Green Tie Seniors as they prepare for adulthood. This is the knowledge that she passes down to the Green Tie Class of 2017:

“My advice to you girls is to stay positive. Don’t get discouraged. Going through college applications and looking for schools isn’t the easiest and it takes a lot of patience. It doesn’t matter what family or friends might think because it can [sometimes] be negative. Always look for those who give you the positive vibes and positive energy.

 Sometimes going far is the best thing to help you look for new adventures [and] to help you open up more. It’s a new journey. A new but long journey. Be ready for the world and all that’s out there. And don’t be too trustworthy with anybody either. Have a guard, but don’t be too guarded.”

These words have much impact and importance to hear during the school year, as Senior Year is probably the most hectic year of a high school student’s life. Applying to colleges, working on grades, and even picking out a prom dress can prove a difficult task. Sometimes we feel like there is no one to consult on these issues, or we even just need a few words of encouragement to help us de-stress.

It is always a great experience to connect with other Belles and get the perspective of their high school experience and what they liked the best or disliked about their four years. They not only hold plentiful knowledge to pass down to others, they also share kinship and understanding with their younger sisters.

One last message that this alum wished to share with all Green, Gold, Red, and soon to be Blue Ties is this:

“No matter what, always put yourself first. Always look out for yourself. Friends will always be there, as long as you know who they truly are, but don’t put them first. Second, always make sure your grades are up there. Grades are important, especially if you’re striving for the best. Don’t settle for less, always think of Princeton, NYU, Stanford, even if you feel you might not get into those [schools]. It doesn’t matter. Have a box in your own goals and say “hey, I’m going to strive for that, and if I don’t get there, well, at least I know I did my best.” Lastly, don’t ever let anyone bring you down because you are the best. You will always be the best version of yourself, no matter what.”

It is always important to ask for insight from others, especially if you feel like you are drowning in all your school work and personal work. You never know what others can help you with until you ask, and don’t be bashful when it comes to talking to a stranger who recognizes your tie because she wore the same one many years before because she can tell you things you may not have known could help you get through some of the stresses high school. Remember Belles, nothing is far when one is determined to get there.